Denise Lewis: No One Knew What I Was Going Through After the Olympics (E339)

Undefeated boxing champion and entrepreneur Laila Ali takes us ringside, then into the heart of what it means to belong.  In this episode of Essential Habits, we uncover the deceptively simple practice her father, Muhammad Ali, modeled again and again: looking after the person no one else notices. Through Laila’s stories, from waiting in queues of adoring fans to earning her father’s reluctant blessing to box, we learn how true leadership is less about spotlight and more about presence. By tuning into the quiet moments and the people at the back of the line, we tap into a habit that transforms culture, boosts trust, and fuels high performance. In this episode, we explore: -  Why 'the last person in line' matters more than the loudest voice -  The neurobiology of inclusion and how exclusion literally hurts -  Three simple shifts to build social awareness every day -  How Laila earned her father’s respect and claimed her own greatness -  What high-performing teams gain when everyone feels seen Whether you lead a team, a family, or just want to notice people more fully, this episode shows why the smallest acts of attention can have the biggest impact. Listen to the full episode with Laila Ali: https://pod.fo/e/265de7 Here is a link to more information on the studies referenced:  1. The Good Samaritan Study (Darley & Batson, 1973) 2. Ingroup Bias and Empathy (fMRI Study, 2006) 3. The Spotlight Effect (Gilovich, Medvec, & Savitsky, 2000) 4. The Bystander Effect (Darley & Latané, 1968)

Dominic Calvert-Lewin is a Premier League striker known for his athleticism, drive, and key role at Everton FC. But beyond the goals and headlines, he’s also faced a tough road of injuries, personal setbacks, and intense pressure.  In this episode, Dominic opens up about some of his lowest moments, times when injury left him feeling broken and lost. He talks candidly about the pressure to bounce back quickly, the mental toll of feeling stuck, and what it really took to dig deep and keep going. He also reflects on the importance of having a strong support system, especially the role his wife and family play in keeping him grounded. Dominic shares how communicating openly about his feelings, even when it meant shedding tears, was a crucial step toward healing and growth.  This episode is a raw and real look at growth, mental toughness, and finding strength through struggle. 🚨 Partners Heights 👉 Get 20% off your subscription by using Code: HP20 here: https://highpfrmc.com/heights1 HP Foundation 👉Do you want to kick-start an evolution that will change the lives of millions of children? Find out more about the High Performance Foundation: https://hppod.co/foundation HP Corporate Events 👉Click here to book High Performance Events: https://hppod.co/corporate-events Explore offers and discounts through our other partners: https://hppod.co/partners

In this episode, we revisit a powerful conversation with Chris Voss, former FBI lead hostage negotiator and bestselling author of Never Split the Difference. In this insightful discussion with Jake and Damian, Chris shares his unique approach to communication, showing how the skills he used in life-or-death negotiations can transform the way we handle everyday conversations. From business meetings to family dynamics, Chris explains why listening more and speaking less can lead to better outcomes in every area of life. Listen in as Chris delivers practical, transformative strategies to help you navigate pressure, connect with others, and negotiate like your life depends on it.

This new Essential Habits series breaks down the key habits behind high performance, one episode at a time. This week’s habit is deceptively simple: asking better questions. Philosopher Alain de Botton joins us to explore how a single, uncomfortable question, “How have I annoyed you?” can deepen trust, defuse tension, and create stronger connections in every part of life. Whether it’s at home, at work, or with close friends, we often avoid the conversations that would help us grow. Alain shows us a different way, one built on emotional generosity, honest listening, and the courage to be vulnerable. In this episode, we explore: Why awkward questions build trustHow to listen without getting defensiveThe science behind emotional connectionWhat high-performing teams can learn from philosophyThe hidden power of backstories and being 'truly heard' Here is a list of studies referenced in the episode: The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness. Arthur Aron, Elaine Aron (1997)Understanding the conversation gap: Why employees aren’t talking, and what we can do about it (Braverly), referenced in How to Navigate Difficult Conversations with Employees. Harvard Negotiation Project Rejection Really Hurts, published in Science (Oct 2003). University Of California - Los AngelesDaring Greatly by Brené Brown Listen to the full episode with Alain De Botton here: https://pod.fo/e/1f5db0

John Legend is a singer, songwriter, and producer known for his soulful voice, emotional depth, and ability to cross genres with ease. With multiple Grammy Awards, an EGOT to his name, and a career that’s spanned decades, John has also become a voice for compassion, activism, and vulnerability in the public eye. In this episode, John opens up about some of the most intimate moments of his life, his complicated relationship with his mother, who faced deep struggles after family tragedies, and how that shaped him growing up. He also talks about the heartbreaking experience he and his wife, Chrissy Teigen, went through with the loss of their baby, and how sharing that pain publicly became a way to heal and help others facing similar grief. John also reflects on his once close bond with Kanye West, a friendship that deeply influenced his early music career but has since grown distant.  This episode offers a raw and honest exploration of vulnerability, healing, and the strength it takes to navigate life’s toughest moments while staying true to yourself. 🚨 Partners Heights 👉 Get 20% off your subscription by using Code: HP20 here: https://hppod.co/20heights HP Foundation 👉Do you want to kick-start an evolution that will change the lives of millions of children? Find out more about the High Performance Foundation: https://hppod.co/foundation HP Corporate Events 👉Click here to book High Performance Events: https://hppod.co/corporate-events Explore offers and discounts through our other partners: https://hppod.co/partners