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Not so Christian Brothers

Podcast Series Not so Christian Brothers

Not so Christian Brothers

An authentic look at modern masculinity from two brothers from different generations. They share insights on fatherhood, brotherhood, and everything in between. 

It's presented by veteran broadcaster Colm Hayes who's voice is instantly recognizable from his years in FM104, RTE and presently Ireland's Classic Hits radio and his brother Justin Caffrey , a well renowned high-performance coach and entrepreneur.

With years of experience between them and stories you've probably never heard before, you may want to get involved.

These guys don't mess around, it's funny, informative, current, sensitive and ball-breaking all at the same time.

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Series Episodes

Colm’s Lonely Christmas: Why I'm Running Away To New York

Colm’s Lonely Christmas: Why I'm Running Away To New York

Merry Christmas! In this special festive episode (released early for your Christmas Eve drive), Justin is still missing in action, so Producer Rebecca steps in to save the day. This year is different for Colm. Facing his first Christmas without his wife Anne, he reveals why he can't stay in Ireland and is "running away" to New York and Miami with his kids to escape the memories of a house usually filled with lights and tradition . We also dive into: The Jesus Conspiracy: Colm claims the Pope "made up" Christmas and that Jesus was actually born on May 4th (May the 4th be with you?)The Christmas Dinner Guest List: Who would you invite, dead or alive? Colm picks Roy Keane and Reese Witherspoon, while Rebecca creates a "Bad Boy Corner" with Elon Musk, Donald Trump, and Enoch Burke .Nativity Chaos: Why Rebecca couldn't see her own child in the play, and why Colm thinks the Innkeeper today would just send Mary and Joseph to the basement car park .The "Begging Letter" Story: Colm shares a shocking story about a neighbor's "begging letter" that asked specifically for Heineken . Whether you are spending Christmas solo, with a chaotic family, or just trying to survive until the New Year, this episode is for you. 📅 New episodes every Thursday & Sunday (Special Wednesday Release!)  🗓️ Release Date: Wednesday, 24/12/2025 ⏱️ Chapters 00:00 – Intro: Justin is MIA & Colm hates hats 00:57 – Conspiracy Theory: Was Jesus born on May 4th? 03:13 – Colm’s Christmas Plan: Running away to New York 05:27 – Do women make the magic of Christmas? 07:49 – Rebecca’s "Protestant Christmas" vs. Colm’s "Catholic Chaos" 11:00 – Drinking at 10am: The Hayes Family Tradition 13:03 – Is Die Hard a Christmas Movie? (Terry says yes) 17:55 – The Dream Dinner Party Guest List (Roy Keane & Enoch Burke) 21:00 – Flashcards: Sea Swim or Charity Run? 24:00 – Nativity Plays: "There's no room in the Inn" 26:35 – Would you let a homeless person stay for Christmas? 28:30 – The Shocking "Heineken" Begging Letter 31:46 – Final Message: Don't let anyone ruin your day 📌 Important Listener Notes Justin Update: Justin is still traveling but will return in the Christmas After Show.Support: If you are finding Christmas tough, remember Colm's advice: the only person who can ruin your day is yourself .Action: Like, subscribe, and share the podcast with someone who needs a laugh this Christmas! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

33 mins

24 December Finished

Terry: "Men Only Want One Thing!" (The Friendship Debate Explodes)

Terry: "Men Only Want One Thing!" (The Friendship Debate Explodes)

The "Not So Christian Brothers" AfterShow descends into chaos as producer Rebecca takes the therapy chair (Justin is still MIA) and Terry unleashes his most controversial opinion yet. We pick up right where the main show left off with the ultimate debate: Can men and women really be just friends?Terry argues a hard "NO," claiming that if a man has a female friend, he either has slept with her or wants to . This leads to a heated clash with Rebecca and Colm, who insist their own friendship proves him wrong. Also in this episode: Sponge Bath Trauma: Colm and Rebecca get weirdly specific about "sponging" and what it reminds them of (it’s not a spa day) .The "Louisa in the Bakery" Test: Terry asks if his wife would be upset if he suddenly became best friends with a random woman he met on the street. The answer? Probably yes .The Stalker Story: Colm reveals he’s had two stalkers in his radio career, one of which he had to report to the police .Chasing vs. Being Chased: Why Colm has never been chased by a woman in his life . 📅 New episodes every Thursday & Sunday 🗓️ Release Date: Sunday, 21/12/2025 ⏱️ Chapter Timings 00:00 – Intro: The "Sponging" Conversation (It gets weird) 02:40 – The Debate Returns: Can men and women be friends? 03:29 – Terry’s Bombshell: "Men only want one thing" 05:57 – The "Only Friends With My Wife’s Friends" Rule 06:35 – The "Louisa in the Bakery" Scenario 08:52 – The Whisper Text: Sending late-night messages from bed 10:01 – Getting Caught: Do cheaters want to be found out? 13:47 – What if a platonic friend confessed their love 5 years later? 15:30 – Rebecca’s "I’m Madly In Love With You" Horror Story 17:13 – Do men like being chased? (Colm has never been chased) 18:31 – Colm’s Stalker Story (Teaser for January!) 📌 Important Listener Notes New Shows: New episodes of the Not So Christian Brothers podcast are released every Thursday & Sunday.Justin Update: Justin will be back next week for the Christmas Special!.Poll: Check our Spotify/Socials for the poll: Can men and women be just friends? Action: Like, subscribe, and DM us your thoughts (only nice things!) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

20 mins

21 December Finished

Can Men & Women Really Be Just Friends? (Rebecca Drops A Truth Bomb)

Can Men & Women Really Be Just Friends? (Rebecca Drops A Truth Bomb)

With Justin currently traveling (or being a "high performance Ziploc" somewhere), producer Rebecca steps out from behind the desk to take the co-host chair . This week, the "Not So Christian Brothers" tackle the age-old When Harry Met Sally debate: Can men and women have a strictly platonic friendship?. Colm insists it’s entirely possible, citing his many female friends, but Rebecca admits that at 42, she’s starting to question if men always "want something" from the interaction . Also in this episode: Movie Club: Colm raves about the new film Blue Moon and Ethan Hawke’s performance , while Rebecca explains why she thinks George Clooney has lost his edge and is just playing a narcissist in J Kelly .Workplace Horror: Colm reveals a past radio partnership so toxic that just smelling his co-host's perfume in the lift made him feel physically sick .The "Fixer" Debate: Do men try to "fix" problems while women judge? Rebecca argues that her female friends are actually the judgmental ones, while Colm is the one who just listens .Tears & Laughter: A touching look back at Colm’s speech at his wife Anne’s funeral, and why humor is the only way to survive the darkest days . 📅 New episodes every Thursday & Sunday  🗓️ Release Date: Thursday, 18/12/2025 ⏱️ Chapter Timings00:00 – Intro: Where is Justin? (And Rebecca takes the chair) 01:05 – Movie Review: Blue Moon & Why Ethan Hawke deserves an Oscar 03:41 – The George Clooney Debate: Actor or Narcissist? 06:40 – Hamnet Review: Why Rebecca cried her eyes out 09:20 – How Colm & Rebecca Met (The "Mat Leave" loneliness) 11:18 – The Big Question: Can Men & Women Be Just Friends? 13:51 – Blurred Lines in the Workplace & "Robin Thicke" moments 17:04 – Men "Fix" things, but do Women "Judge"? 23:11 – Colm’s Horror Story: The Co-Host Perfume that made him sick 24:34 – Did Colm's wife ever get jealous of his female friends? 33:00 – Finding humor in grief: Colm’s speech at Anne’s funeral 34:35 – The "SuperValu Nappy Run" Story 📌 Important Listener NotesNew Shows: New episodes of the Not So Christian Brothers podcast are released every Thursday & Sunday.Guest Host: Justin is away this week; Producer Rebecca steps in as the main co-host.Action: If you enjoyed the dynamic, please like, subscribe, and follow the podcast on your platform of choice! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

36 mins

18 December Finished

Colm’s Mick Jagger Theory: "Older Women Don’t Have A Sex Drive?"

Colm’s Mick Jagger Theory: "Older Women Don’t Have A Sex Drive?"

This week, the lads dive headfirst into the most explosive topic of all: marriage, sex, and the reality of long-term relationships. The debate ignites immediately with Colm’s controversial "Mick Jagger Theory"—his view that older men seek younger partners because women's sex drives diminish with age. This is immediately challenged by Rebecca, who argues that a lack of interest is often due to lack of communication, feeling unvalued, and not getting what they want in bed, not menopause. Justin cuts through the chaos with a raw take on intimacy, explaining that a great sex life needs a "lead up"—it starts at breakfast, not with a "raging boner". In this episode, we challenge everything you know about commitment: The Divorce Bombshell: Why 60% of divorces are filed by women and why men statistically benefit more from marriage.The Prison of Marriage: Is staying in a bad relationship "trapped consistently failing forever," and why young people view marriage as a "prison" rather than a choice.The Choice Problem: Terry argues that "too much choice" from social media is destroying relationships and confusing people about what they truly want.Dating App Shock: Colm’s hilarious (and slightly panicked) explanation of the Grindr app. 📅 New episodes every Thursday & Sunday  🗓️ Release Date: Sunday, 14/12/2025 ⏱️ Chapter Timings00:00 – Intro: The Obsession with Celebrity Marriages (Kim Cattrall & Ryan Tubridy) 02:19 – Justin: Why I Only Date Older Women (Perspective & Grounding) 03:13 – Colm’s Mick Jagger Theory: Does Female Sex Drive Disappear? 04:30 – Rebecca’s Rebuttal: Sex Drive vs. Feeling Valued in Bed 05:54 – Justin: The Pearl Jam Song That Taught Me About Orgasm 07:51 – "Sex Starts at Breakfast" – Why the Lead-up Matters 09:27 – The Commitment Barrier: Why Young People Don’t Want to Work for Sex 10:32 – Is Marriage a Prison? The Failure of a Split 11:13 – Justin: It’s Better to Get Out Than Be "Trapped Failing Forever" 11:40 – Modern Choice: Why Younger Generations Aren't Getting Married 13:11 – "You Made Your Bed": The End of Sleeping in a Bad Marriage 15:10 – The Divorce Stat: Why 60% of Divorces Are Filed By Women 17:03 – The Gender Divide: Why Men & Women See Marriage So Differently 19:15 – Terry: How "Too Much Choice" Destroys Relationships 22:30 – Colm’s Grinder Revelation: "Men Near Me" 23:21 – Outro & Final Call to Action 📌 Important Listener NotesNew Shows: New episodes of the Not So Christian Brothers podcast are released every Thursday & Sunday.High Engagement: This episode features a highly opinionated and potentially triggering debate on sex and gender roles in relationships.Action: Remember to like, subscribe, and follow the podcast on your chosen platform! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

24 mins

14 December Finished

The Truth About Marriage: “Is This As Good As It Gets?”

The Truth About Marriage: “Is This As Good As It Gets?”

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Is monogamy natural, or just a choice we make to keep the farm in the family? This week, Colm and Justin tear apart the concept of modern marriage. Inspired by Jack Nicholson’s line in As Good As It Gets and Kim Cattrall’s fourth marriage, the lads dive into the uncomfortable truths about long-term relationships. Colm makes a stunning admission about why he would never marry again after 35 years , while Justin argues that humans are naturally polyamorous and that most couples stop being honest the moment they say "I do" . They debate whether "staying together for the kids" is actually damaging, why so many older couples look like "dead people" just leaning on each other , and Justin challenges every listener to go home and ask their partner for a "48-hour honesty challenge" . Plus, we touch on George Clooney’s loneliness, Sean Penn’s chaotic lifestyle, and Terry’s theory of being a dog in his past life. 📅 New episodes every Thursday & Sunday  🗓️ Release Date: Thursday, 11/12/2025 ⏱️ Chapter Timings00:00 – Intro: Justin’s "Confirmation Shoes" & The Power of Touch02:00 – Is This As Good As It Gets? Kim Cattrall & Jack Nicholson03:00 – Colm’s Admission: "I Would Never Marry Again" 04:30 – George Clooney, Success, and Dying Alone07:50 – Is Monogamy Natural? Justin’s Polyamory Theory 09:40 – "Staying Together for the Kids": A valid choice or a lie? 11:00 – Sean Penn, Louis Theroux & "Find What You Love and Let It Kill You"13:20 – Reincarnation: Was Justin a Double-Jointed Dog? 15:30 – The "Fine-Tuned" Version of Ourselves We Show the World18:30 – "I See Dead People": The tragedy of transactional marriages21:00 – Why Young People Think Marriage is "Gross" 24:30 – We Are All Changing: Why you aren't the person they married27:00 – The 48-Hour Honesty Challenge: Could you do it? 31:00 – Gratitude, "Ying & Yang," and Spilling Over 📌 Important Listener NotesNew Shows: Catch new episodes of the Not So Christian Brothers podcast every Thursday & Sunday.High Engagement: This episode features a raw debate on marriage vs. happiness. We want to hear from you: Is honesty really the best policy in a relationship?Action: Remember to like, subscribe, and follow the podcast on Spotify and Apple Podcasts. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

34 mins

11 December Finished

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