How Status Corrupts Good People | Tom Hardin
4 May - 1 hour 29 minsMost people think crossing the line is a single decision. It’s not.
AJ sits down with Tom Hardin to unpack how small ethical compromises compound over time — and how pressure, ambition, and environment can quietly push anyone further than they ever expected. From feeling like an outsider at Wharton to navigating Wall Street culture, insider information, and the pull of status, this episode reveals how rationalization, incentives, and relationships shape behavior more than we think.
It’s a candid look at decision-making under pressure — and how quickly things can spiral when no one is asking hard questions.
Chapters00:00 – From outsider to Wall Street ambition10:00 – Pressure, performance...
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