Fueled by Anger or Freed by Forgiveness? The Aftershow Gets Personal

Can you really forgive and forget? This week on Not So Christian Brothers, Colm Hayes and Justin Caffrey go head-to-head on forgiveness — from global politics to personal betrayal. Is forgiveness a spiritual superpower or just psychological self-preservation? Rebecca tries to keep the peace as the lads spiral from Olympic doping scandals to Viagra sponsorships, Panadol hypocrisy, and the dark days of Christian Brothers education. It’s raw, unfiltered, and painfully honest. 💬 Expect heated debates, unexpected wisdom, and the kind of laughter that comes from old wounds and too much truth. 🎙️ New episodes every Thursday and Sunday — subscribe now so you never miss the madness. If you’ve ever struggled to forgive someone — or wondered whether forgiveness is overrated — this episode will have you shouting “Amen” and “Absolutely not!” in the same breath. Colm doesn’t buy the idea that we can truly forgive deep harm, while Justin argues that forgiveness is freedom itself. From Nelson Mandela to Netanyahu, from classroom trauma to childhood fear, the conversation hits nerves — and nerves hit back. It’s philosophical, it’s personal, it’s brutally Irish. This isn’t your Sunday sermon — it’s Not So Christian Brothers. ⏱️ Chapter Timings00:00: Colm’s drive-in rant — doping, hypocrisy & Panadol ads 04:00: Viagra sponsorships and “enhanced” performance 05:00 : Forgiveness — real or just rebranding pain? 17:00 : Rebecca pivots — new topic: education and the Irish system 18:00: Is school broken? Class, privilege & South Dublin snobbery 23:00: The Christian Brothers memories — fear, beatings & resilience 27:00: Can you ever forgive your education? Wrap-up and reflections 📅 Publishing Note🗓 Release Date: Thursday, 16 October 2025 🎙 Next Episode: Sunday, 19 October 2025 Subscribe now — new episodes every Thursday and Sunday on all major platforms. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This Aftershow might just break your heart and make you laugh out loud. Rebecca dives headfirst into intrusive thoughts, Justin preaches that happiness is “an inside job,” and Colm — raw as ever — opens up about finding comfort in grief and guilt in joy. From Taylor Swift’s provocative new album to a young girl in Gaza teaching resilience through food, the trio weave laughter, life, and loss into one of their most honest Aftershows yet. Get ready to question what happiness really means — and maybe, just maybe, breathe a little deeper. 🎥 Now streaming in Video on Spotify 🎧 Available on Apple, Acast and all podcast platforms. Time Chapter: 00:00 - Welcome to The Aftershow – “Voices in Our Heads” 01:05 - Taylor Swift, Intrusive Thoughts & Showgirl Energy 02:40 - TV Anxiety, Death in Media & the Comfort of Familiar Grief 04:00 - Survival vs Happiness – Tattoo-Worthy Quotes 06:00 - Is Happiness an Inside Job? 08:30 The Myth of Constant Joy 10:30 - Excitement, Expectations & Flat Afternoons 12:00 - Finding Joy in the Pizza Moments 14:10 - Gaza, Guilt & the Girl Who Pickled Olives 17:00 - Resilience, Loss & The Magic Shop 19:30 - Breathing, Intrusive Thoughts & Being Present 20:50 - Final Thoughts & Recommendations 21:10 - Like, Follow & See You Thursday! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all wake up at 3 a.m. sometimes — heart racing, thoughts racing faster. In this week’s episode of Not So Christian Brothers, Justin and Colm tackle the 3 a.m. spiral head-on. Colm talks about what happens when your mind won’t stop running imaginary arguments and worst-case scenarios. Justin explains why the brain does this — from primitive wiring to stress hormones — and how to interrupt the loop with a proven paper-and-pen trick that calms the nervous system. Rebecca joins the brothers to ask the questions everyone’s thinking: are intrusive thoughts ever useful, and why do we keep feeding them with our screens? It’s an honest, funny, and surprisingly comforting listen for anyone who’s ever stared at the ceiling wondering why can’t I just stop thinking? 🎥 Now streaming in video on Spotify 🎧 Available on Apple, Acast, and all podcast platforms. 00:00 – Irish politics, PR fails & Sharon Stone’s tweet 03:30 – Intrusive thoughts: why we overthink at night 06:40 – The 3:28 a.m. wake-up and anxiety loops 10:00 – Naming your inner critic and calming the noise 14:00 – When overthinking turns into rumination 17:00 – Doom-scrolling, dark TV, and anxiety triggers 20:00 – How what you consume affects your sleep 24:00 – The myth of constant happiness 27:00 – Journaling, reflection, and tracking your progress 32:00 – Therapy stories & finding humour in the process 34:30 – Closing thoughts: small daily tools for calmer minds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Aftershow continues one of the most moving conversations we’ve ever had. Colm has returned to the studio after sharing the story of losing his wife, Anne — and now, the brothers and Rebecca go deeper into what comes next: rebuilding, reconnecting, and getting help. This time, the laughter mixes with vulnerability. The three talk about the importance of therapy, the fear of showing emotions, and the funny, messy truth of trying to heal. Justin opens up about his own experiences with therapy — including the time his grief was “too complex” for a therapist — while Colm shares how he’s finally ready to face his emotions head-on. It’s honest, warm, and at times hilarious, but beneath it all lies one message: we need to talk more about men’s mental health, therapy, and the courage it takes to ask for help. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode marks a special moment as Justin welcomes his brother Colm back to the studio after the loss of his wife, Anne. What begins as a heartfelt homecoming turns into one of the most powerful conversations we’ve ever had on the show. Colm speaks openly about love, loss, and the shock of grief — but also the kindness of strangers, the funny memories that live on, and the importance of showing up for one another when life falls apart. From there, the brothers and Rebecca dive into a bigger conversation about men, emotions, and mental health. Why do we avoid talking? Why do we doom-scroll instead of opening up? And how do we begin to unravel the pain that sits underneath? This is an episode for anyone who has ever struggled, ever carried grief, or ever felt the weight of silence. It’s about brothers finding their way back to each other, and a reminder that talking — honestly, openly, even awkwardly — can be the first step toward healing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.