Forgive, Forget, or F* Off? The Truth About Letting Go

It’s Sunday, and the hangover from Thursday’s episode on forgiveness is still brewing. Colm Hayes, Justin Caffrey, and Rebecca Horan are back — a little raw, a little caffeinated, and absolutely not ready to forgive. From Taylor Swift and Mariah Carey to business betrayals, heartbreak, and hospital trauma, this aftershow turns reflection into revelation. Colm argues that anger fuels success, while Justin opens up about his past, therapy, and losing his son — and how forgiveness saved him. Rebecca keeps the chaos grounded as the conversation drifts from revenge to redemption, Catholic guilt to Protestant freedom, and even Trump’s ego to South Dublin snobbery. This is Not So Christian Brothers at its best: raw, real, and roaring with uncomfortable truths. 🎙 New episodes every Thursday and Sunday — subscribe now so you never miss the chaos, comedy, or confession. Ever been told to “let it go”? Colm thinks that’s nonsense. Justin says forgiveness is the only way to survive. Rebecca’s just trying to stop them from throwing microphones. In this brutally honest Aftershow, the trio dive into what really drives people — anger, pain, or peace? From family and faith to fame and failure, it’s the episode that proves growth doesn’t come from calm... it comes from chaos. Whether you’re the grudge-holder or the peacekeeper, this one will hit home. ⏱️ Chapter Timings00:00 – 01:00: Mariah Carey, Taylor Swift & the power of pop queens01:00 – 03:00: Forgiveness recap — Colm’s “never forgive” manifesto03:00 – 06:00: Anger as strength vs forgiveness as freedom06:00 – 09:00: Justin’s powerful story — grief, loss, and letting go09:00 – 11:30: Does anger make you successful?11:30 – 13:00: Rebecca opens up about bullying and resilience13:00 – 15:00: Irish education, class, and the South Dublin struggle15:00 – 17:30: Religion, repression, and the guilt that shapes us17:30 – End: Sunday scaries, leadership, and life’s endless lessons 🗓 Release Date: Sunday, 19 October 2025 🎙 Next Episode: Thursday, 23 October 2025 🔔 New episodes drop every Thursday and Sunday — follow on Spotify, Acast, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This Aftershow might just break your heart and make you laugh out loud. Rebecca dives headfirst into intrusive thoughts, Justin preaches that happiness is “an inside job,” and Colm — raw as ever — opens up about finding comfort in grief and guilt in joy. From Taylor Swift’s provocative new album to a young girl in Gaza teaching resilience through food, the trio weave laughter, life, and loss into one of their most honest Aftershows yet. Get ready to question what happiness really means — and maybe, just maybe, breathe a little deeper. 🎥 Now streaming in Video on Spotify 🎧 Available on Apple, Acast and all podcast platforms. Time Chapter: 00:00 - Welcome to The Aftershow – “Voices in Our Heads” 01:05 - Taylor Swift, Intrusive Thoughts & Showgirl Energy 02:40 - TV Anxiety, Death in Media & the Comfort of Familiar Grief 04:00 - Survival vs Happiness – Tattoo-Worthy Quotes 06:00 - Is Happiness an Inside Job? 08:30 The Myth of Constant Joy 10:30 - Excitement, Expectations & Flat Afternoons 12:00 - Finding Joy in the Pizza Moments 14:10 - Gaza, Guilt & the Girl Who Pickled Olives 17:00 - Resilience, Loss & The Magic Shop 19:30 - Breathing, Intrusive Thoughts & Being Present 20:50 - Final Thoughts & Recommendations 21:10 - Like, Follow & See You Thursday! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all wake up at 3 a.m. sometimes — heart racing, thoughts racing faster. In this week’s episode of Not So Christian Brothers, Justin and Colm tackle the 3 a.m. spiral head-on. Colm talks about what happens when your mind won’t stop running imaginary arguments and worst-case scenarios. Justin explains why the brain does this — from primitive wiring to stress hormones — and how to interrupt the loop with a proven paper-and-pen trick that calms the nervous system. Rebecca joins the brothers to ask the questions everyone’s thinking: are intrusive thoughts ever useful, and why do we keep feeding them with our screens? It’s an honest, funny, and surprisingly comforting listen for anyone who’s ever stared at the ceiling wondering why can’t I just stop thinking? 🎥 Now streaming in video on Spotify 🎧 Available on Apple, Acast, and all podcast platforms. 00:00 – Irish politics, PR fails & Sharon Stone’s tweet 03:30 – Intrusive thoughts: why we overthink at night 06:40 – The 3:28 a.m. wake-up and anxiety loops 10:00 – Naming your inner critic and calming the noise 14:00 – When overthinking turns into rumination 17:00 – Doom-scrolling, dark TV, and anxiety triggers 20:00 – How what you consume affects your sleep 24:00 – The myth of constant happiness 27:00 – Journaling, reflection, and tracking your progress 32:00 – Therapy stories & finding humour in the process 34:30 – Closing thoughts: small daily tools for calmer minds Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Aftershow continues one of the most moving conversations we’ve ever had. Colm has returned to the studio after sharing the story of losing his wife, Anne — and now, the brothers and Rebecca go deeper into what comes next: rebuilding, reconnecting, and getting help. This time, the laughter mixes with vulnerability. The three talk about the importance of therapy, the fear of showing emotions, and the funny, messy truth of trying to heal. Justin opens up about his own experiences with therapy — including the time his grief was “too complex” for a therapist — while Colm shares how he’s finally ready to face his emotions head-on. It’s honest, warm, and at times hilarious, but beneath it all lies one message: we need to talk more about men’s mental health, therapy, and the courage it takes to ask for help. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode marks a special moment as Justin welcomes his brother Colm back to the studio after the loss of his wife, Anne. What begins as a heartfelt homecoming turns into one of the most powerful conversations we’ve ever had on the show. Colm speaks openly about love, loss, and the shock of grief — but also the kindness of strangers, the funny memories that live on, and the importance of showing up for one another when life falls apart. From there, the brothers and Rebecca dive into a bigger conversation about men, emotions, and mental health. Why do we avoid talking? Why do we doom-scroll instead of opening up? And how do we begin to unravel the pain that sits underneath? This is an episode for anyone who has ever struggled, ever carried grief, or ever felt the weight of silence. It’s about brothers finding their way back to each other, and a reminder that talking — honestly, openly, even awkwardly — can be the first step toward healing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.