The Hidden Part of You That's Blocking Everything You Want | Katie Clarke

Sheleana Aiyana, author of Becoming the One and founder of the Rising Woman community, joins Lewis Howes to discuss conscious relationships, attachment wounds, trauma bonding, and somatic healing. Drawing on Peter Levine's somatic experiencing and his book Waking the Tiger, Imago therapy from Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, and Gottman Institute research, Aiyana covers nervous system regulation, inner child re-parenting, the father wound, and the shadow vows she created with her husband before marriage.

Dr. Shefali Tsabary, clinical psychologist and pioneer of the conscious parenting movement, returns for her third School of Greatness appearance to discuss her books Raising Conscious Daughters and Raising Conscious Sons. The conversation covers conscious parenting, parental emotional regulation, the seven pillars for raising girls (voice, embodiment, enoughness, boundaries, anti-fragility, sovereignty, sisterhood), male initiation, the manosphere, the youth mental health crisis, and the digital hijacking of attention and attachment. Tsabary references her Conscious Coaching Institute and the work of Scott Galloway.

Lewis Howes, three-time New York Times bestselling author and host of The School of Greatness, breaks down five mindset shifts blocking high achievers from manifesting their goals, citing frameworks and language from Dr. Joe Dispenza, Bob Proctor, Rhonda Byrne, and Price Pritchett's Quantum Leap framework, alongside his book The Greatness Mindset and a 30-day embodiment and alignment challenge.

Charles Duhigg, Pulitzer Prize-winning journalist and author of The Power of Habit and Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection, joins Lewis Howes to explore the neuroscience of deep conversation. Topics include the Harvard Adult Happiness Study, neural entrainment, looping for understanding, the three conversation types (practical, emotional, and social), emotional reciprocity, bids for connection, motivational interviewing, the matching principle, and Verna Myers' work at Netflix.

Meg Josephson, licensed psychotherapist, certified meditation teacher, and New York Times bestselling author of Are You Mad At Me? How to Stop Focusing On What Others Think And Start Living For You, joins Lewis Howes to break down the psychology of people pleasing through the lens of the fawn response, a nervous system threat response alongside fight, flight, and freeze. Josephson explores her six people pleaser archetypes (peacekeeper, performer, perfectionist, chameleon, caretaker, lone wolf), the distinction between reassurance seeking and validation, complex trauma and generational trauma patterns, internal family systems (IFS) developed by Dick Schwartz, and the role of shame, the inner critic, and self-blame in compulsive approval-seeking.