Your Beliefs Are Sabotaging You | Nir Eyal
9 March - 1 hour 3 minsWhy do high performers know exactly what to do — yet still fail to take action?
AJ and Johnny sit down with Nir Eyal, bestselling author of Hooked and Indistractable, to explore the hidden force behind motivation: belief. Nir explains why information alone doesn’t change behavior, how limiting beliefs quietly filter what we see and feel, and why many people stay stuck despite having the right strategy.
From separating pain from suffering to building a “portfolio of perspectives,” this episode reveals how changing your beliefs can unlock persistence, better relationships, and the motivation to follow through.
Chapters
00:00 – Why knowing what to do isn’t enough07:00 – Beliefs: the filter...
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