Nobel Laureate Alvin Roth: How Incentives Shape Your Life | EP 757

Does the silence of a new life feel like a threat to your safety? You’ve finally walked through the threshold, but the "silence" starts to itch. Suddenly, you feel a physical, vibrating urge to go back to being the "Fixer"—the version of you that is useful, busy, and predictable. That urge has a name: Identity Gravity. In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles explores the "Architecture of the Interior" and the psychological forces that pull us back into old orbits. Drawing on the external market systems discussed with Nobel Laureate Alvin Roth, the psychological flexibility frameworks of Dr. Diana Hill, and the raw "Identity Bankruptcy" of TOMS founder Blake Mycoskie, John explains how to achieve escape velocity. This is a deep dive into the neurobiology of the Default Mode Network (DMN) and the "Moral Economics" of the self. It’s time to stop being a tool for someone else’s convenience and learn how to break the identity gravity trap. Passion Struck is the #1 personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/how-to-break-identity-gravity/ Explore the Identity Gravity Audit for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/how-to-break-identity-gravity-trap Thank You to Our Sponsors. Limited Time Offer – Check out Function Health—160+ lab tests a year for $365. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/tcm/passion or use gift code PASSION25 for a $25 credit toward your membership. Connect with John Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_Miles Children’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/ Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/ In this episode, John discusses: The Physics of the Snap-Back: Why your brain treats stillness like a biological threat and how "identity gravity" pulls you back to the grind.The Static of the DMN: Understanding why high-performers suppress the Default Mode Network and why its "re-boot" feels like anxiety instead of peace.Identity Bankruptcy: Lessons from Blake Mycoskie on the "gradual disappearance" that happens when your utility replaces your identity.The Repugnant Transaction of Being: Why sitting still feels like a moral betrayal when you’ve internalized a market that only values "doing."The Commoditized Human: Breaking the feedback loop that turns you into an interchangeable tool rather than an essential presence.The Boundary ADR: Using "Architectural Decision Records" to protect your time and reclaim the monopoly of your own presence.Achieving Escape Velocity: The three pillars of architectural rigor needed to break the snap-back effect and stay in your new orbit.Support the Movement: https://StartMattering.com Every human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it. Disclaimer The Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or...

What if the problem isn’t time management, but how you manage your energy?In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with psychologist Diana Hill to explore why energy management often matters more than time management—and how psychological flexibility can help you focus your effort on what truly matters.Drawing from her new book, Wise Effort: How to Focus Your Genius Energy on What Matters Most, Diana shares a transformative idea: Burnout often stems from directing your energy in ways misaligned with your values.We explore why high achievers often feel drained despite being productive, how “genius energy” can become either a strength or a liability, and how Acceptance and Commitment Therapy offers practical tools for shifting from urgency-driven striving to values-based action.We also dive into Diana’s powerful metaphors—from birds flying into windows to living from the back of the heart—and how small shifts in awareness can open entirely new ways of living.If you’ve ever felt exhausted while doing all the “right” things… this conversation will help you rethink effort itself.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/how-to-manage-energy-not-time-wise-effort/Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.netThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Get Huel today with my exclusive offer of 15% OFF online with my code PASSION at huel.com/passion. New Customers Only. Thank you to Huel for partnering and supporting our show!Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/In This Episode, You Will Learn:Why managing energy often matters more than managing timeHow psychological flexibility helps prevent burnoutWhat Diana Hill means by Wise Effort—and how to practice itHow to identify when your strengths are becoming liabilitiesThe three-step method: Get Curious, Open Up, and RefocusHow “genius energy” can help you align effort with your deepest valuesWhy the path forward may require looking for a different open door—not flying harder at the same windowSupport the MovementLiving intentionally starts with directing your energy toward what matters.Explore tools, reflections, and frameworks to help you build an ignited life: https://www.theignitedlife.netDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice. Connect with John Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to...

Does it ever feel like you’re waiting for your own life to start?You’re sitting in your car at the end of the day, staring at the front door, realizing you have to "gear up" just to walk inside. You’ve become a world-class manager of a life you’ve stopped inhabiting. You’re winning the efficiency game, but you’re losing the human one.In this episode of Passion Struck, John R. Miles explores the psychology of resistance and the difficult move from utility to aliveness. He identifies why we choose the "known hell" of burnout over the "unknown heaven" of presence. Drawing on recent conversations with shadow-work expert Keila Shaheen and life-design pioneers Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, John explains how to break the "identity handcuffs" that tie our sense of worth to our productivity.This isn't about working harder—it's about the literal, physical courage it takes to cross the threshold from being a provider to being a presence. It’s time to stop circling the wall and finally step through the door.Passion Struck is the #1 personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here:Explore the daily reflection guide for this episode at:Thank You to Our Sponsors. Limited Time Offer – Check out Function Health—160+ lab tests a year for $365. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/tcm/passion or use gift code PASSION25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/ In this episode, John discusses:The Safety of the Squeeze: Why our nervous systems prefer the predictable exhaustion of the grind over the perceived threat of stillness.The Identity Handcuffs: How we’ve anchored our self-worth to our "utility" and why being needed is not the same as being known.The Grief of the Machine: Acknowledging the loss that occurs when you let the "super-producer" version of yourself die so the person can emerge.The Five-Second Threshold: Understanding the physical gap between knowing you should change and actually moving your hand to do it.Transition Rituals: How to use tiny, physical anchors—like touching a doorframe—to tell your nervous system that the manager is checking out.Reclaiming Agency: Why crossing the threshold is a private, quiet decision to stop seeking light from external approval.The Floor Beneath Your Feet: A sixty-second practice to shift from maintaining a structure to actually living within it. Support the Movement: https://StartMattering.comEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it.DisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice. Connect with John Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: 

What if the reason you feel unfulfilled is that you’ve been approaching it all wrong?In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with Bill Burnett and Dave Evans, the visionary minds behind Stanford's Life Design Lab and co-authors of How to Live a Meaningful Life. We tackle one of personal growth’s biggest myths: that meaning is something you find.Instead, Bill and Dave present a groundbreaking concept—meaning is something you design.We delve into why high-achievers often feel "fine but empty," why success doesn’t guarantee fulfillment, and how our transactional world traps us in outcomes over experiences. Our conversation uncovers a transformative framework for building a meaningful life through small experiments, curiosity, and intentional action, all without drastic life changes.This conversation will change how you think about purpose, passion, and what it really means to live fully alive.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/designing-a-meaningful-life/Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/stop-planning-your-life-start-wayfindingThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Check out Function Health—160+ lab tests a year for $365. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/tcm/passion or use gift code PASSION25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/We also dive into:Why many feel “fine” outwardly, yet unfulfilled insideDistinguishing meaning, fulfillment, and happiness—and avoiding the confusionWhy “follow your passion” can mislead—and the better alternativeUsing design thinking and prototyping to cultivate purposeThe contrast between transactional and flow worlds—and where true meaning residesHow actions, rather than waiting, create clarityThe impact of small moments of awe and curiosity on lasting meaningThe vital role of community in the journey to meaningSupport the MovementEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter.Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.comDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional medical or psychological advice. Connect with John Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to Speak: https://johnrmiles.com/speaking/ Support the Movement:...

Shadow work helps you uncover the hidden parts of yourself, but what happens after that?In this episode of Passion Struck, I sit down with Keila Shaheen, the million-copy bestselling author of The Shadow Work Journal, to explore the step most people miss: integration.While shadow work helps us confront the “invisible bag” of childhood wounds and hidden traits we carry, it is only part of the equation. Keila explains why true healing requires shifting from reflection to action—what she calls light work. We explore her newest book, The Light Work Journal, and how it helps people move out of the “gray area” of exhaustion into intentional awareness and energized living.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/light-work-journal-keila-shaheen-passion-struck/Explore companion insights for this episode at: https://www.theignitedlife.netResources & LinksExplore companion insights: https://www.theignitedlife.netThank You to Our SponsorsLimited Time Offer – Check out Function Health— 160+ lab tests a year for $365. Join at https://www.functionhealth.com/tcm/passion or use gift code PASSION25 for a $25 credit toward your membership.Connect with JohnKeynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/We also dive into:Why so many people feel a sense of quiet disorientation—and how to move from reactive, autopilot living into clarityThe difference between System 1 vs. System 2 thinking and how it impacts your daily lifeWhy exhaustion—not anxiety or depression—is the dominant emotional state todayThe role of a healthy ego as a stabilizing force rather than something to eliminateHow noticing “glimmers” can rewire your mindset and shift your emotional baselinePractical ways to protect your energy and show up as your most authentic selfThis episode is a roadmap for anyone who has done the inner work but still feels stuck.Support the MovementEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.comDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views expressed by guests are their own and do not substitute professional medical or psychological advice. Connect with John Keynotes, books, podcast, and resources: https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesChildren’s Book — You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Pre-Order The Mattering Effect: https://matteringeffect.com/Book John to...