Ep 37 Answering Your Kid's Awkward Questions, Body Image & Rejection

Welcome to the annual books edition of Honey You’re Ruining Our Kid. Our picks of the year and the reasons why you need certain books in your life. All the books recommended can help you contend with the most common issues we have been emailed about in 2023. Huge thanks to all our lovely listeners who shared their parenting book recommendations. Massive thank you to the wonderful Helen Carr who got in touch with the most beautiful books for your Xmas stockings this Christmas.  We run through all our favourite books that we think are essential for your children’s bookshelf.  Debi Giliori - No Matter what.  Owl Babies- Martin Waddell. The Invisible String - Patrice Karst.  Arlo the Lion- Catherine Rayner.  How Do You Feel - Lizzy Rockwell.  Llama Llama Mad At Mama- Anna Dewday.  Millie Fierce- Jane Manning.  Where Happiness Begins - Evo Eland.  Breathing Makes It Better- Christopher Willard and Wendy O Leary.  The Unbudgeable Curmudgeon- Matthew Burgess.  Big Feelings - Alexandra Penfold.  Ellen Ryan - Girls who slay monster.  And her new book: Gods Don’t Cry.  Let’s Talk …. Richie Sadlier.  Parenting books: Good Enough - Dr. Becky  Brainstorm & The Whole Brain Child - both by Dan  Siegel.  The 4-7 zone - Dr Colman Noctor.  The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read - Philippa Perry.  Irish books for gifts this Christmas.  https://obrien.ie/tread-softly https://obrien.ie/its-too-dark-puffling https://obrien.ie/twin-power-the-lost-cup https://obrien.ie/sally-in-the-city-of-dreams Shout out to Threshold listening library an incredible online resource for parents this Christmas. Threshold Listening Libraries Email us on [email protected] Join us on www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad to access bigger episodes and the full archive of bonus content.

Can you ban non-believers from your house at Christmas? One Mom just did it! Tina has a way of keeping the magic alive.  Question 1 - what do you do if you're raising a Harry Houdini? If you can’t relax in your house because you never know what your little adventurer is up to, you need to hear this one. Question 2- when your child is rude to your friends and family what can you do? When they refuse to engage socially how do you get them to start interacting with people. These parents say they are already modelling their desired behaviour they want from their kids? But are they prepping them? Find out how to successfully navigate social gatherings with your children.  Question 3: if you grew up in a house with an aggressive sibling what do you do when you see similar patterns of behaviour emerging in your own child. How do you help them cope? Teaching them how to process and reflect upon their emotions is key. Think sheets are incredibly helpful for encouraging older children to reflect on their behaviour and recognise what caused them to act out in the first place.  If you have a parenting question fire it over to us at [email protected]. No question is too big or too small.  Head on over to Patreon to hear the juicy stuff. www.patreon.com/irishmanabroad Over on Patreon with hear from a mum who Tina has spent a lot of time working with. She gives an update on her kids situation which makes Tina feel like she can finally relax the cax about this situation. 

The Regan’s are back with another episode of Honey You’re Ruining Our kid, accompanied by the tranquil sound effects of storm Debi. Jarlath and Tina start the show talking about the storms that can pass through our own parenting life. How do we navigate them? How do we get over them and how do learn from them?  Question 1. When you’re separated from your partner, but you’ve been co-parenting really well for years, what do you do when they move house and start moving the rules. How can you reach them and get them to understand your worries? Or do you need to just have these open conversations with your kids?  Question 2.  If your child is about to have surgery how do you manage their anxiety and yours? Jarlath has brilliant advice for this mum. Through lived experience he knows the most important care is the after care. He directs this mum to seek that out.  Question 3. If you’re already trying everything what can you do to possibly help your child with their separation anxiety. Tina traces everything back to feelings and if our children know how to process them. There is never too much work that can be done on feelings. We need to help our children understand and face them.  Pop over to Patreon to get so much more Honey! You're Ruining Our Kid! laughs and email replies. How did the advice work out for the parents involved. What do you do when your teenager is starting to push your buttons on purpose! Email [email protected]

This week on the show fussy eaters, bed wetters and kids who just want to be naked. As always Tina has the solutions you need. Tune in to hear her advice and stay for the laughs.  First up on the show we hear from a mom whose child is regressing with their toilet training. Not unusual at all. This mom is completely on it and so tuned in to her child. Tina offers up two options, depending on how fast this mom wants change but both are definitely hopeful that this little girl will start using the toilet again.  Next up we hear from a mum who is at loggerheads with her own mother about how she’s parenting her child. Is there anything worse than our own parents questioning or overriding out parenting style. Tina has some sound advice for this mum that she hopes will work and transform this unpleasant situation.   Fussy eaters are everywhere. How do you get your child to try new foods. Tina’s Tapas are back. Listen in to see how Tina suggests you should present your dinner. This technique is a game changer.  If you have a parenting problem that is driving you all kinds of bananas get in touch today. We can help. Email - [email protected]. There is nothing we haven’t seen before. We can and will help.  Come on over to Patreon and listen in to the juicy stuff. Thank you so much for supporting our show. 

Is worrying about our kids the normal operating mode of modern parents. Are you stressed out, constantly over thinking and worrying about who they are becoming? I wants to know how did we get to this point? Were our parents ever as concerned about our wellbeing or did they just never vocalise it to us? Are we getting it right with all the mental health awareness or is it giving young people more ideas about what they should be worried about? Question 1: If you can’t get your partner to have your back and your parenting styles are very different how can you get your kids to do what you’ve asked them to do? When one parent tells them they don’t have to and the other is making threats - things get messy fast! Feeling alone and isolated as a parent is never a good feeling. Tina and I try to guide this mom through a very difficult personal situation. Question 2- A mom gets in touch about her out of control teenager. Her daughter wrecked her car and physically assaulted her. Should she cancel her party as a punishment? Or is that a step too far when your daughter is showing signs of frustration and unhappiness. Is being this strict actually helpful? Question 3- What’s the best approach when relocating your family. How do you prepare your child for the move? How do you persuade them it’s for the best when they are being vocal about not wanting to go. Finally... over on Patreon Tina reads an email from a listener who followed her plan and has seen a miraculous change in her kid. And yes, I did see a ghost. Or was it just some lad in a weird night dress. Who knows! It was definitely a ghost. Email any questions into [email protected]. Pop on over to Patreon to get the juicy stuff. Jarlath Regan | creating Irishman Abroad Podcasts | Patreon