Triggered Again: Understanding Our Reactions to Kids' Behaviors (With Elisabeth Corey)
17 September 2024 - 45 minsTrauma survivor Elisabeth Corey returns to ‘Unruffled’ to share healing insights she's gained from her intense struggles as a parent of twins. The emotional reactions our kids stir up in us can take us by surprise. Worse, they can keep us feeling stuck repeating dynamics with our kids that seem to be driving us apart. We often know how we "should" respond but can't remain calm enough to do that in the moment! As Elisabeth explains, our reactions are often indicators of past hurts that need healing, and she inspires us to explore them with curiosity and self-compassion, showing us the way in this episode.
You can learn more about Elisabeth and access her resources at: BeatingTrauma.com.
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