“I Am Absolutely Terrified of This” - Ryan Opens Up About Something Deeply Personal

This week, Louise and Ryan head straight from egg retrieval into the podcast chairs, so there’s no better place to start than a real-time update on their fertility journey. What follows is a raw and incredibly honest conversation about how they’re both actually feeling through the process. Louise opens up about feeling unsupported at times, while Ryan shares how difficult he’s finding it to be the support system she needs while navigating his own emotions too. We then move onto some of the hot topics in the news this week, from the controversies surrounding the Met Gala to the shocking statistic that 1 in 4 children are reportedly not potty trained by the time they start school… which leads to a bigger conversation about where the responsibility really lies. And we end on a very sweet listener question from a dad wondering which public bathroom is most appropriate to take his young daughter into. 🗓 New episodes every Wednesday 📩 We’ve got a NEW email! Want to get involved? Email [email protected] or slide straight into our DMs @hesaid.shesaid.podcast. We want it all. Your dilemmas, questions, voice notes, stories and opinions. If it’s pod-related, we’re listening. 🩵 Follow us everywhere  Instagram | TikTok | Youtube @hesaid.shesaid.podcast And of course… don’t forget to subscribe, follow, rate and review. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Louise and Ryan head to UK Parliament to back the call for a maternity commissioner, with Louise sharing why this fight is so deeply personal. She opens up about her own experience of giving birth and the stark reality that care for women in the UK is still falling short, and why change shouldn’t have to come at the cost of tragedy. Then it pivots. A weekend away sparks a story no one saw coming, with unexpected glimpse into Ryan’s past as butler in the buff 👀. There’s also a chat about The Fury’s and how their approach to parenting might hold up if Leo married young, or started to swear at them.  And finally, a simple question: should you share your location with your partner? Ryan’s a hard no. Louise couldn’t disagree more…. 🗓 New episodes every Wednesday 📩 We’ve got a NEW email! Want to get involved? Email [email protected] or slide straight into our DMs @hesaid.shesaid.podcast. We want it all. Your dilemmas, questions, voice notes, stories and opinions. If it’s pod-related, we’re listening. 🩵 Follow us everywhere  Instagram | TikTok | Youtube @hesaid.shesaid.podcast And of course… don’t forget to subscribe, follow, rate and review. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Louise has had a rare few days alone while Ryan and Leo headed off on their first father–son trip. Ryan reflects on what that one-on-one time meant to him, while Louise opens up about something many mums don’t say out loud: that she enjoyed the space, and why she refuses to feel guilt for needing time to herself. That honesty leads into a bigger conversation. Inspired by Emma Grede describing herself as a “three-hour mum”, we unpack the pressure around modern motherhood. How much time is “enough” with your kids, what’s expectation versus reality, and how our own experiences shape the kind of parents we want to be. We also share a major surrogacy update. It’s a big step forward, and one that brings a mix of hope, nerves, and the weight of everything starting to feel very real. And to close, we answer a listener question about how we navigated our darkest moments together and what it really took to come out the other side. 00:00 Introduction 01:50 Our double date weekend away 03:26 Our driving habits 07:22 Sam forgot to book a hotel room! 15:32 Ryan first trip alone with Leo 19:48 Ryan's Vision of Fatherhood 28:28 Louise's Solo Time away from Leo 34:03 No Mum Guilt in Taking Time Off 37:39 Emma Grede ‘Three Hour Mom’ Controversy 41:34 Sacrifices and Adaptability in Parenting 43:43 Our BIG Surrogacy Update 52:37 Listener Question: Keeping the Spark Alive Through Trauma 58:51 See you next week! 🗓 New episodes every Wednesday 📩 We’ve got a NEW email! Want to get involved? Email [email protected] or slide straight into our DMs @hesaid.shesaid.podcast. We want it all. Your dilemmas, questions, voice notes, stories and opinions. If it’s pod-related, we’re listening. 🩵 Follow us everywhere  Instagram | TikTok | Youtube @hesaid.shesaid.podcast And of course… don’t forget to subscribe, follow, rate and review. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Louise and Ryan kick things off with a simple question, would they want a boy or a girl next? But their answers reveal something deeper, opening up a conversation about the quiet fears of parenting in a world shaped by the manosphere and everything kids are exposed to online. That leads into screen time, boundaries, and the looming question every parent faces… what happens when your child asks for a phone? Their take might surprise you... Plus, Louise shares why she chose to go sober, and a listener question about surrogacy uncovers something unexpected… was Ryan always sure he wanted kids? 00:00 Intro 00:40 Leo's Challenging Behavior Phase 10:53 What Will Leo Be Like When He Grows Up? 12:00 Do we want a boy or girl next? 12:55 The Manosphere and Raising Respectful Men 17:29 The Fear of Having a daughter 20:26 When Will Leo Get a Phone? 22:55 Screen Time and Parenting Challenges 48:02 Louise's Sobriety Journey 1:00:20 Ryan originally didn't want children 1:02:17 Looking Ahead in our surrogacy journey 🗓 New episodes every Wednesday 📩 We’ve got a NEW email! Want to get involved? Email [email protected] or slide straight into our DMs @hesaid.shesaid.podcast. We want it all. Your dilemmas, questions, voice notes, stories and opinions. If it’s pod-related, we’re listening. 🩵 Follow us everywhere  Instagram | TikTok | Youtube @hesaid.shesaid.podcast And of course… don’t forget to subscribe, follow, rate and review. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s a full Thompson takeover this week, with Sam and mum Karen joining Louise. We get into teenage Louise… and it’s more chaotic than anyone remembers. This sparks a few long-overdue apologies from Louise, and some honesty about their family dynamic now. But it doesn’t stop there. Louise has something she’s been holding onto, and it opens up a conversation they’ve never had before as she asks for an apology of her own... We also had to talk Made in Chelsea… with Karen’s reaction to them joining, plus her take on one of their most heated arguments. And of course, your questions: Sam as an uncle, the “favourite child” debate, and Sam as an uncle...Is he as good as Louise expected? 00:00 Team Thompson Episode Begins 02:02 Did Sam know he would be Louise's boss? 03:45 Sam’s university rejection story 08:56 Who was the better behaved child? 10:00 Sam reveals how Louise was as a teenager 16:00 Louise apologises to Sam and Karen 22:13 Sam’s apology to Louise never talked about before 30:00 How real is Made in Chelsea? 32:25 Karen watches MAFS! 33:10 Karen’s views on Sam and Louise joining MIC 35:35 Watching Sam and Louise’s most heated MIC clip 39:15 Reflections on doing reality TV 42:00 Surprise from Karen leaves her in tears… 43:30 How Sam’s neurodivergence affects his dating life 47:35 Who is the favourite child? 48:25 Louise’s opinion on Sam’s glow-up 52:42 Who fancies Pete more? 55:15 Is Sam as good an uncle as Louise thought? 59:00 The Karen debate! 🗓 New episodes every Wednesday 📩 We’ve got a NEW email! Want to get involved? Email [email protected] or slide straight into our DMs @hesaid.shesaid.podcast. We want it all. Your dilemmas, questions, voice notes, stories and opinions. If it’s pod-related, we’re listening. 🩵 Follow us everywhere  Instagram | TikTok | Youtube @hesaid.shesaid.podcast And of course… don’t forget to subscribe, follow, rate and review. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.