Ella Mills: Victim mentality, apathy, and fad diets

Were you praised as a child for being ‘good’, for keeping quiet, or not making a fuss? Psychologist Dr Nicole LePera reckons that praise may have taught you to disconnect from your emotions entirely. In this chat with Fearne, Nicole explains how even well-intentioned parenting can leave us with patterns that run our adult lives on autopilot. She talks through the practical process of reparenting your inner child, starting with something as simple as finding a childhood photograph. We hold our emotions in our bodies, so she also shares ways to tune in with your body throughout the day to release stress. Nicole also explains why your nervous system keeps you stuck in familiar patterns even when you logically know better, and why shame, people pleasing, and perfectionism are all protective strategies we developed to survive childhood. Plus, why does healing require what Nicole calls a return to ‘radical honesty’? Nicole’s book, Reparenting the Inner Child, is out now. If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Chiwetel Ejiofor Philippa Perry Break Free From People Pleasing Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Adam and Jules have been married for 25 years and are stuck in a bit of a rut. Adam stumbles across some old mixtapes he and Jules made for each other when they were young and falling in love, and when they play them... they get to travel back in time to different moments in their relationship. Will remembering the passion they used to have get the future of their relationship back on track, or will it just spark absolute chaos? You & Me, You & Me, You & Me was our Happy Place Book Club pick for April. In this chat with Fearne, authors Josie Lloyd and Emlyn Rees – themselves a married couple – explain why they wanted to explore rekindling intimacy in the empty nest phase, and reveal how they write together on a practical level. What do you reckon, if you could go back in time to tweak some of the decisions you’d made – would you? Maybe it would make you even more grateful for the happiness you have now... Thank you to Vintage Digital for the use of the You & Me and You & Me and You & Me audiobook, narrated by Rory Kinnear and Sally Phillips. If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Book Club Meets: Emma Gannon Book Club Meets: Maggie O’Farrell Book Club Meets: Nussaibah Younis Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When was the last time you told someone exactly how much you earn? Entrepreneur Emma Grede - who co-founded Good American with Khloe Kardashian - says that when women avoid talking about money, money avoids them. In this chat with Fearne, Emma explains why ambition isn't a dirty word, and why she wants every determined woman to know her worth. Fearne and Emma also explore why you can't be a people pleaser and a leader, and why getting comfortable with failure and self-doubt is non-negotiable. As a mum of four, Emma has some big thoughts about mum guilt, and talks about why it’s so important that kids see their mums chasing their goals and loving what they do. Plus, why you’ll never catch Emma working from home, or cutting her kids’ sandwiches into heart shapes... Emma’s book, Start With Yourself, is out now. If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Ashley James Chris Appleton Carol Vorderman Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if your best decade is still ahead of you? At 62, broadcaster and healthy aging expert Liz Earle is fitter, stronger, and happier than ever. In this chat with Fearne, Liz shares how she went from overwhelmed, overweight, and exhausted during perimenopause, to thriving in her 60s. She shares the small lifestyle shifts that transformed her health, and why women in midlife shouldn’t feel selfish moving themselves up the priority list. Fearne and Liz dig into the science of aging well, including the power of sunlight (and whether we should be wearing SPF year-round!), and why we should be prioritising sleep and strength training. Plus, what happened when Liz’s younger boyfriend took her clubbing for the first time at 60 years old...? Liz’s book, How To Age, is out now. Listen to Liz’s podcast, Age Better, here! If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Naomi Watts Callie Beaton Poorna Bell Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Should you give your inner critic have a name? Psychotherapist and author Philippa Perry reckons giving that nagging voice in your head a silly name is the first step to stopping it running your life. In this chat with Fearne, Philippa explains why not feeling ‘good enough’ is often less about truth and more about habit. She shares how to tell the difference between a helpful critical inner voice and a self-sabotaging one, and why negative thought patterns keep us stuck. Fearne and Philippa also chat about the power of shame, and why talking about the things you feel most embarrassed about is the fastest way to shrink them. Plus, how is your phone eating away at your ability to connect IRL? And what can you do if you can’t access therapy? Philippa talks through some of her favourite self-therapy exercises. Philippa’s novel, Shrink Solves Murder, is out on May 7th. If you liked this episode of Happy Place, you might also like: Philippa’s first Happy Place episode Flo Perry Bryony Gordon Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.