There's No Bell in Motherhood

A lot of us wrestle with whether to start a family, or to grow the one we have. Today, Helena de Groot shares her own kid ambivalence — and the messy, intimate, confusing process of getting her husband to believe her wishes around whether or not to become a mom. (Plus, Hillary shares something she’s never talked about publicly before!) … Recommendations from the archive • Should I Have Kids? Follow a former LST producer’s journey as she confronts this big question. • Fresh Air’s Terry Gross decided not to have kids. Hear her story: Terry Gross on Not Having Kids • Still having doubts? Listen to The 36 Questions to Ask Your Partner Before Having Kids … Episode resources • Hear the rest of Helena’s story in her series Creation Myth, from CBC Podcasts … • Join LST+ for community and access to You Know What, another show in the Longest Shortest universe! • Follow us on Instagram • Sign up for our newsletter, where we recommend other parenting + reproductive health media • Buy books by LST guests (your purchase supports the show!) • Website: longestshortesttime.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Audience faves Trystan and Biff are back… and they’re having a baby! We talk about what it’s like to be a pregnant man, and to share that news with your parents, your children, and the world. ⭐️ This episode originally ran on May 31, 2017 and is a favorite from the archives. We hope you enjoy, and we’ll be back next week with a brand new episode. … Check out the entire Accidental Gay Parents series! … • Join LST+ for community and access to You Know What, another show in the Longest Shortest universe! • Follow us on Instagram • Sign up for our newsletter, where we recommend other parenting + reproductive health media • Buy books by LST guests (your purchase supports the show!) • Website: longestshortesttime.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Holly Schechter always knew she wanted to be a mom. But getting there was a journey. After a car crash and two major spine surgeries, she struggled with infertility. Today, Holly shares her remarkable story of IVF… with a hopeful ending. … Recommendations from the archive • Infertility got you down? Maybe you need to laugh about it with infertility sketch comedy in our episode Awkward Adventures in Infertility. • Our early episode The Longest Longest Time is about one woman’s struggle with miscarriages for 11 years… and how she eventually came to have a baby. … Episode resources • Holly is now head of education at Conceive, a digital platform that provides 24/7 medical and emotional support for people trying to get pregnant. … • Join LST+ for community and access to You Know What, another show in the Longest Shortest universe! • Follow us on Instagram • Sign up for our newsletter, where we recommend other parenting + reproductive health media • Buy books by LST guests (your purchase supports the show!) • Website: longestshortesttime.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We pick up where we left off with Trystan and Biff, and their passive-aggressive standoff. ⭐️ This episode originally ran on May 3, 2016 and is a favorite from the archives. We hope you enjoy, and we’ll be back next week with a brand new episode. … Check out the entire Accidental Gay Parents series! … • Join LST+ for community and access to You Know What, another show in the Longest Shortest universe! • Follow us on Instagram • Sign up for our newsletter, where we recommend other parenting + reproductive health media • Buy books by LST guests (your purchase supports the show!) • Website: longestshortesttime.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hot flashes! Weight gain! Headaches! Rage! If these symptoms sound familiar, you may be in perimenopause. But who among us actually knows what perimenopause is? Menopause specialists Dr. Rebecca Dunsmoor-Su and Dr. Amy Voedisch offer an informative and irreverent primer. … More episodes about clinicians as patients • #183 Postpartum House Arrest • #230 Secrets from the Vagina Whisperer • #38 Pediatricians, They’re Just Like Us … More from the docs • Rebecca and Amy’s podcast about perimenopause: OvaryActive • Rebecca and Amy’s book: Estrogen Interrupted: A Guide to Surviving and Thriving in Perimenopause (purchasing/pre-ordering through our link helps support LST!) … Episode resources • Find a provider through the Menopause Society … • Join LST+ for community and access to You Know What, another show in the Longest Shortest universe! • Follow us on Instagram • Sign up for our newsletter, where we recommend other parenting + reproductive health media • Buy books by LST guests (your purchase supports the show!) • Website: longestshortesttime.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices